You set quiet little traps to see if they'll stay. Spoiler: they usually don't.
Your red flag is the loyalty obstacle course you build for everyone you date. You don't just trust people — you make them prove it. Small traps at first (will they text back?), then bigger ones (will they choose me over their friends?), then impossible ones (will they still love me if I become my worst self?). The thing is, you don't do this because you're cruel. You do it because somewhere along the way, someone important failed you, and now everyone has to earn their way in. But here's the paradox: no one can pass a trial they don't know they're in. And people who genuinely love you will eventually get tired of auditioning for a part they already won.
Get your read — free on iPhoneyou keep setting traps for people because the alternative — trusting without proof — feels like walking into traffic blindfolded.