You don't date people, you adopt projects
You see potential in people the way art dealers see potential in unsigned paintings. He's not emotionally unavailable — he just needs someone to BELIEVE in him. She's not toxic — she just hasn't had anyone show her what healthy looks like. Sound familiar? You're the girlfriend who sends self-improvement podcasts, suggests therapy (lovingly), and has already identified all your partner's attachment wounds by week three. You're not controlling — you're INVESTED. The problem is you're so busy building a better version of your partner that you forget to ask if they even wanted to change. You deserve someone who arrives already assembled.
Get your read — free on iPhoneyou see who they COULD be so clearly that you forgot to check if you even like who they actually ARE.