'I just think it's funny how...' is your catchphrase
You never say what you mean directly. Why would you, when passive aggression is an ART FORM and you're Picasso? 'I just think it's funny how...' is your opening statement. 'No yeah totally, that's fine' is your closing argument. Every sentence has a subtext layer that your partner needs a decoder ring to understand. You're not being dishonest — you're being INDIRECT. In your head, the hint was obvious. In their head, you said it was fine so it must be fine. This creates a fun little cycle where you get increasingly frustrated that they 'don't get it' while they have literally no idea what's happening. You use humor and sarcasm as a bridge to serious feelings because saying 'that hurt me' directly feels like walking into traffic naked.
Get your read — free on iPhoneyou wrap every real feeling in a joke because somewhere you learned that being direct about pain makes you a burden.