What are green flags in a relationship?

A green flag gets used loosely to mean 'good vibes,' but the useful version is more specific: it's a pattern you can actually name and point to, not just a feeling you can't explain. Not escalating an argument. Being the same person in a crisis that they are on a good day. Telling you the truth even when the easier move would be a comfortable lie. Green flags tend to be less exciting than red ones, which is part of why they're easy to miss. Consistency doesn't generate a story to tell your friends the way drama does. Someone who shows up reliably for six months in a row doesn’t produce a single dramatic moment — they just quietly become the person you realize you trust. The reliable way to spot one: does this pattern hold up specifically under pressure, not just when things are easy? Anyone can be a green flag on a good day. The real ones are the same person on a bad one.