WE won. THEY lost. The pronouns know what they're doing.
'WE won.' Interesting. The Eye checked the team sheet and couldn't find you on it. When they lose, though, the grammar shifts in real time — 'they bottled it,' 'he should've buried that,' 'this team has problems.' Your pronouns are an insurance policy: full coverage on victories, zero liability on defeats. And the Eye has seen the policy active far beyond July. At work it's 'we crushed the launch' when it lands and 'the design team dropped the ball' when it doesn't. In the friend group, the parties that go well were 'ours' and the ones that flop were 'hers.' You merge with whatever's winning because borrowed shine still feels warm — and you step back from whatever's losing because some part of you isn't sure your own scoreboard can take another mark against it. It's not malice. It's a survival grammar. But people notice which way your pronouns blow, and they're quietly deciding what 'we' means to you.
Get your read — free on iPhoneyou borrow the win because some part of you isn't sure your own scoreboard counts.